I
never used to read the book of Songs of Solomon because I felt it was for the
married until recently when I decided to study the bible starting with the
biblical Songs of Solomon. I read the first three chapters but it felt like a
love story from a boy to a girl until I decided to put more interest, yield to
God’s Spirit and unravel the mystery behind chapter four through the help of
the Holy Spirit. I’m a single lady, hoping to be a bride someday and I realised
that today’s scripture talks about a single lady, her appearance and her worth
as a bride.
You
are beautiful. Most of us like to think we are not married simply because we
are not beautiful enough. But to tell you the truth, beauty is what you think
of yourself. When you find the real person, he sees you as beautiful, and
anytime he sees you, he doesn’t look upon you with lust, rather he sees a very
beautiful lady who must be kept safe and preserved.
When
a man loves you, he sees your flaws but yet, he sees no flaw (vs 7). Why? Because ‘love covers a
multitude of sins’ (1 Peter 4:8). A
compatible man meant for you can handle your flaws. Rather than criticise you,
he seeks ways at which he can help you out. When others criticise you, he says
like biblical King Solomon said, “there is no flaw in you”. A bride-to-be is
not only a bride, but a sister. Someone dear to him, when he cares for her, he
cares for her like his own flesh and blood- like his sister (vs 10). She fills his heart and gives
him courage. Her presence gives him hope and makes him see a brighter tomorrow (vs 9). She speaks well, when she talks,
it is soothing and strengthening. It’s like honey and milk (vs 11).
More
importantly, a single lady, a fiancée, a bride-to-be is enclosed. She is a
sealed garden, a very beautiful garden. She is a paradise with precious fruits.
She is a fountain, a well of living waters. In her, is the capability and
capacity to bring forth life and reproduce. She is endowed with potentials. In
case you don’t understand what I mean by sealed, this is what I mean.
She
is chaste, she understands the principles of sexual purity and she keeps
herself pure always. She is not for everyone, she is not for every man and she
is reserved for the best. She is not all over the place. She knows her worth,
she knows how special she is to God. She has the capacity to change her generation
positively and she recognises her body as God’s own temple.
She
understands the principle of marriage which says, “Marriage is honourable in
all, and the bed undefiled” (Heb 13:4).
If you are a Christian, then stand for God. Let the world know you are for God.
There is no need to defile yourself, no need to engage in premarital sex. I
have come to realise that sex is a state of the mind. If you trust God to be
chaste, he is ever ready to help you.
In
this world of pervasiveness and sexual immorality, it is almost impossible to
be chaste, but I tell you the truth, God honours such who are just, righteous
and pure. Being a chaste is not a crime rather, it shows how much self- control
you possess. Don’t let any man make you feel less. You deserve the best. But
remember, if you want the best, you have to be the best. Work on your
character, work on your physique, be beautiful for yourself and always trust
God. Don’t go into a relationship because it feels right; go into it because
it’s right. God loves you!
If
God is your standard, he would give the strength to carry on. You don’t need to
feel pathetic because you are not married, listen, YOU ARE A GARDEN, A PRODUCT OF GOD’S MAGNIFICENT EFFICENCY AND
EFFECTIVENESS. YOU ARE A BRIDE!
Esther Bamiloshin
The Global Entity
Esther is a contributor to the blog. She’s passionate
about God and has a flair for writing scripts and acting.
